We ask ourselves what makes us happy and work towards that. It turns out that your negative emotions are also a compass for action when they are accepted. Here's how to harness their wisdom.
Practicing holding the emotion was an unlock for me. I was used to putting them in a box and pretending they did not exist. In some ways it was easier to put the blinders on until a coach asked me to “try and let them in as a guest, let them stay a while”. This intention helped me get curious, understand, think about what is happening and why, but not let those emotions drive.
Anything with a Moana quote is a winner for me - big fans in the household! But Matangi aside, this really resonated.
I am in a place where both therapy and coaching seem to be pointing me in the direction of emotions - and the need to stop just dismissing them or bottling them up. It is scary to try a different approach to them - “get lost” is much riskier in real life than in cartoons somehow! - but when I do, I feel so much more complete and authentic, and people at work seem to respond better too.
The secret for me is to separate the “what” (exploring the emotion, sit with the negative, embrace it) and the “when” (don’t react in the moment, pause and regulate, and put it aside for a quieter time).
I got this insight working with a coach and I am now trying to make it into a habit…
Practicing holding the emotion was an unlock for me. I was used to putting them in a box and pretending they did not exist. In some ways it was easier to put the blinders on until a coach asked me to “try and let them in as a guest, let them stay a while”. This intention helped me get curious, understand, think about what is happening and why, but not let those emotions drive.
Anything with a Moana quote is a winner for me - big fans in the household! But Matangi aside, this really resonated.
I am in a place where both therapy and coaching seem to be pointing me in the direction of emotions - and the need to stop just dismissing them or bottling them up. It is scary to try a different approach to them - “get lost” is much riskier in real life than in cartoons somehow! - but when I do, I feel so much more complete and authentic, and people at work seem to respond better too.
The secret for me is to separate the “what” (exploring the emotion, sit with the negative, embrace it) and the “when” (don’t react in the moment, pause and regulate, and put it aside for a quieter time).
I got this insight working with a coach and I am now trying to make it into a habit…